I’m done with social media.
It’s not a New Year’s Resolution but the end result of more than a year’s worth of building frustration.
What started as a fun way to connect with old friends or admire someone’s creativity and wit has devolved into an algorithm-manipulated product- and misinformation-selling free for all. Our data, our kids’ pictures, our very identities are up for sale every time we post, and Facebook, Twitter and Google have all shown that they care for the wealth of their shareholders far more than they care about our privacy or safety.
So that’s it.
It’s a little embarrassing. Back in 2006 I was explaining the brave new world of Web 2.0 at conferences around the country. I’ve had a Twitter account for more than ten years. I’ve posted more than 1200 pictures on Instagram. Here are the most liked from this year (Yes, there’s even an app to figure out that):
I was convinced that this new media would open doors to connect people and ideas. A decade later, the doors are there, but you have to pay to get through. You pay in never ending ads, in courting the most vile racism and misogyny should you catch the attention of trolls, and in the strategic rewiring of your own brain to feed you just enough dopamine to keep scrolling and scrolling and scrolling.
We can do better.
We can create a better internet for ourselves.
One where we carefully select the people and organizations we choose to listen to. Where we can be anonymous if we wish or engage in spirited debate. Where the images and ideas we put online don’t automatically become someone else’s property.
We can use tools like RSS and email, which seem almost quaint now, to curate the discussions that we’ll engage in.
We’ll have to work a little harder, but the result will be the conversation we want to have… one that might not even happen online.
(Imagine that.)
So from now on, I’ll be posting here a little more often. Sometimes it may just be a few photos or a shorter secondary post.
Please stop by if you want to say hello or see what I’ve been up to. You can use the contact form or email me at my first name (at) loradow.com. If you’d like, hit the subscribe button above and about once a week you’ll get an email with links to whatever’s been posted the week before.
My Twitter, Pinterest, Tumblr and Instagram accounts are gone. I’ve deleted the Lora Dow Facebook page. I still have a LinkedIn and Facebook account for work purposes, but neither are reliable ways to reach me.
My online presence is under new management… my own.
PS – I still have a little housekeeping to do on the site to clear out the feeds and links to social media platforms, but they’ll be gone soon too, I promise.
Mary Thoame says
Hi Lora,
I completely understand, and to be frank there are times in all the political hate filled postings that I feel that I will step away. For now, I merely look and like and celebrate ever so seldom, skimming by so many things I don’t care for. Peace to you, and good luck. I look forward to postings I get to see in whatever manner you choose. Be well.
Lora Dow says
Thanks Mary! Happy New Year to you and yours!
Diane DuBois says
Hi, Lora,
Once again, you so eloquently state what has also been my growing frustration with the continuing devolving climate of FB. As FB is the only social media format I’ve been on, I can’t speak to the others, but the control that FB exerts on what we see, the ads, and with whom we are really friends has been a source of irritation for some time. Unfortunately, sometimes the posts are so disturbing when addressing the plight of fellow human beings, the information so false and misleading, that my fingers just seem to jump to the keys to reply to the injustice. You’re right that often those responding do so with the guaranteed anonymity of FB and sometimes with even more hate than the original post. Even some of my “friends” has responded in unexpected ways that have caused me to pause and ask why a “discussion” has to be a battle. I vow to not get drawn in, but recently my resolve hasn’t been as strong as it should be. I may also be following in your footsteps for a better use of time and improved connections with the world. Of course, I would love to continue to be connected with you in whatever format you choose. I have always enjoyed your postings and will look forward to more in the future. Take care. Happy New Year to you. Diane
Lora Dow says
Happy New Year to you too. I used to love Facebook (and Twitter and Instagram) for the connections and ideas and inspiration they gave me, but then it all devolved into the algorithm deciding what I would see and it lost its appeal. So, we’ll have to get a little old fashioned and not have our information spoon-fed to us. :-)
Sarah Haywood says
I hear ya, Lora. Will be subscribing to your email list! =)
Steve says
You have hit it on the head. I feel I’m on the same path you are.
Steve